Sure, it’s not that easy to get the things you want the most. There’s so much time, money, and hard work to invest in the process of getting the things you most desire. But hear me out.

I was 18 years old when I learned about the law of attraction and manifesting, thanks to Leeor Alexandra and her videos about manifestation and the law of attraction.

I did what she told me to do: I journaled, I wrote down my goals, I wrote letters to my future self, I did the 2 cup method, and meditated…a lot. And let me tell you, this works.

I don’t want say that you’ll be entirely happy with the way your life turns out, but if you take the time for yourself and work on your goals, you could potentially find some contentment with life. You just have to do something about it. If you need some motivation and inspiration, I am here to help…with Leeor. Tag team!

1. Write a letter to your future self.

Get yourself in a comfortable position. Maybe you’re wearing pajamas, in bed. Maybe there’s also a candle burning and your favorite song playing. Meditate a little – breathe in, breathe out. It is so important to get yourself feeling comfortable and good because your vibrations will be at their highest. Then, find a piece of paper and a pen (or a laptop or tablet, whichever you prefer!) and start writing.

Write the date as one year into the future – so if it’s March 19th 2019, write it as March 19th 2020. Then, start writing.

Write, as your future self addressing your past self (which, is really your present self) and talk about everything you have and everything you’re grateful for. 

I’ve done this once before, and it’s honestly scary how much has come true. At the beginning of 2018, I wrote that I wanted to be a writer in New York City, living in my dream apartment, and in a happy, healthy relationship with someone who respects me, loves me, and understands my love language. Now, in 2019, I’m a writer in New York City, living in my dream apartment, and in a happy relationship with myself…and still waiting for my dream man. Though not everything is true (yet!), it still happened for me. It works. 

2. Rewrite your limiting beliefs.

Limiting beliefs are statements that we have decided are factual, based on what we’ve been programed to believe: from media, our childhood, etc. It dictates our behavior and how we manifest (or don’t manifest) the things in our life.

First and foremost: sit down with yourself and be a bit introspective. What are your beliefs? Is money too hard to obtain? Do you believe that you’re not going to find love because you’re not good enough?

Write down your limiting beliefs and change your relationship with these beliefs. 

In other words, rewrite them. Write down the beliefs: money is easy to get, I am loved and I am good enough and I am capable of finding love.

I’ve done this many times before, because this is something that I struggle with (I doubt myself a lot and I question whether or not I’m good enough for love) and it’s slowly becoming an easier thing for me to do. I write: “I am so happy and grateful now that…” and write down my beliefs. For example: “I am so happy and grateful now that money is flowing in and that I am so desirable and so deserving of love.”

I am so happy and grateful, I am so happy and grateful, I am so happy and grateful…

3. The Two Cup Method.

Get two cups and a couple of sticky notes. The cup on the left is your current reality and the cup on your right is your desired reality.

With a sticky note, write down whatever is making you feel so low. For example, “I feel undesired and unloved and that’s probably why I’m single,” or “I don’t have an income,” or “I’m not able to travel for reasons x,y,z,” – and place it on the cup on the left. Then, fill the cup on the left with water.

With another sticky note, write down what you want, in relation to whatever is on the left. For example, write down “I am desired and loved and in a happy, healthy relationship,” or “I have a steady income!” or “I’m traveling so much!”

Sit with these cups in front of you. Think about how the reality on the left side makes you feel. Think about how you’ll feel when the reality on the right side manifests itself. Amazing, right!? 

Pour the water from the left cup into the right cup. Think about those good feelings. Then, drink the water from the right cup.

Writing down your goals will make your dreams a reality, but you have to have faith in that.

Believe me, I know how hard that it is. I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression and I know how it can make you feel unmotivated and undeserving of the things you want. For me, that’s what made me want to keep going. I wanted something better for myself and I worked towards making that happen, despite all the negative feelings and thoughts I fought against.

You have to visualize what you want. You have believe you’re deserving of it. You have to have faith in that these good things will happen for you.

Remember: your thoughts become things.

We all have 11 soul connections, which are a beautiful, spiritual bond between lovers, family, friends, and even acquaintances. These soul connections are meant to teach us, to guide us, to love us, and to make us feel whole again.

Here are the 11 soul connections we will experience in our lifetime:

Soul Partners

This connection isn’t particularly romantic, though it can be. It’s often a family member, a friend, or even an acquaintance or coworker. This person is someone who provides support on your spiritual journey to find your life purpose. It’s someone who helps you get to where you need to be.

Soul Ties

If you meet someone and instantly feel a connection to them as if you were meant to cross paths with them, that they are meant to be in your life for a reason (though unknown), then they might be a soul tie. Maybe this person challenges or teaches you things in ways that other people don’t, but whatever the case, soul ties are one of the more intense connections.

Think of the invisible string theory: the idea that the Universe connects you to one another with an invisible red string. It’s the person who grew up a block away from you and the two of you meet later in life in a different city. It’s the person who shows up in the back of your photos because you just so happened to attend the same concert. That’s a soul tie.

Romantic Soulmates

When you meet a soulmate, you will feel it in your entire being. Your gut is screaming, This is them. You will feel as if you’ve been waiting your whole life to meet this person. Your connection is natural, easy, and comfortable. They are your person, someone who you are most likely going to spend forever with.

Past-Life Soulmates

Have you ever met someone and instantly felt as if you’ve met them before? Or that you’ve known them before? There’s something familiar and comforting about them, but you can’t seem to put your finger on what that is. This person could be a past-life soulmate.

This is when two souls have shared a life together (or maybe even multiple lives) and they keep finding each other in every lifetime. Maybe in this life, it’s someone you’re in a casual situationship with, but in a past life, it was true love. Maybe in a past life, it was a family member, and in this life, it’s a best friend.

According to Michael Newton, Ph. D., the author of Journey of Souls: A Case Study of Life Between Lives, “Souls do come across time and space for each other.” It is believed that when souls come back together in every life, it’s because they are looking to heal or do better this time around.

Karmic Soulmates

Karma is a concept of action. It’s the energy we put out into the world that eventually makes its way back to us. It can be good or bad, but it really is just a neutral energy of cause and effect.

Karmic soulmates are people who come into our lives to teach us how we can improve ourselves. They shed light on the parts of us that need healing and how we can grow and evolve to become better people.

Twin Flames

The idea of twin flames is that our bodies were split in two with someone and we still share the same soul with them. “Mirrored souls” who see themselves in one another.

A twin flame is an intense soul connection that can be toxic, overwhelming, and incredibly challenging. The purpose of a twin flame is to force us to confront our insecurities and doubts, guide us to the deepest and most feared parts of ourselves, and challenge us to find healing.

Despite how ugly and toxic they can be, they are ultimately meant to help us become the best versions of ourselves. And thankfully, this connection doesn’t last forever. Whenever you are both ready for it, the relationship will come to an end.

Soul Friends

Think of your best friend. They are your soul friend. We will have many, many friendships in our lives. Friends come and go but soul friends stay forever. The two of you inspire, motivate, love, and understand one another on such a deep level. Nothing and no one can tear you apart. “You’re my person.”

Soul Families

This is your “chosen family.” These people are destined to come into your life and as a soul group, you are meant to break negative patterns together. You work together to be a part of something bigger, like working for a similar cause or breaking toxic patterns (like addiction, for example).

Soul Teachers

While this can be an actual teacher who inspired or motivated you, it can also just be a plain old person who teaches you something about yourself. They serve as a gentle guide to the journey you were meant to be on.

For example, maybe it’s your high school English teacher who inspired you to become a writer later on in life. Or maybe it’s a friend’s mom who complimented your fashion sense and encouraged you to make a career out of it.

Soul Crossings

“Right person, wrong time.” — That’s a soul-crossing connection.

Maybe you’re in a relationship with someone but you know that you need some time apart to grow on your own, and so you’ll find one another and try again later on. Think of When Harry Met Sally. That’s a soul-crossing.

Kindred Spirits

Kindred spirits are the people who understand you. It’s someone who shares the same spiritual or cultural beliefs as you, and who most likely has had a similar upbringing or similar life experiences as you. You feel safe in each other’s presence simply because you just get one another in a way that no one will ever understand.

You deserve more than what you’ve been given and you deserve more than what you’ve accepted.

Here’s a tough pill to swallow: when you settle in love, you ultimately abandon yourself. This self-abandonment is cruel. It’s a coping mechanism that stems from self-doubt, low self-esteem, trauma, and a desire to please others.

When you settle in love, you keep yourself small. You fear that you are too much and you are asking for too much. But that’s not true — the way they love you just isn’t enough.

When you settle in love, you tend to look at your relationship through rose-colored glasses. You ignore the signs that your partner isn’t truly giving you what you want or need.

So, whatever you do, please don’t settle in love.

It’s okay to feel sorry for yourself and feel ashamed for accepting anything less, for believing that small love was all you were worth. It’s okay to be angry at them for not giving you more. Some people can’t love the way you love and can’t give the way you give–and that’s okay too. That just means they’re not meant to hold your heart.

As agonizing as it will be to have to let them go, it is ultimately the kindest thing you can do for yourself. You have to understand what you are worth and make space in your life for people who actually treat you with the kindness, love, grace, and respect you deserve. You have to learn how to give yourself the love you gave them.

Please, don’t settle in love. Don’t settle for a love that isn’t fulfilling your needs, that isn’t white-hot with passion, and that doesn’t make you feel seen and heard. You deserve so much more.

At first, you will feel ashamed for accepting so little from him. You will feel ashamed for taking the crumbs he gave and believing it kept you full. Now, you are coming to the gutted realization of how starved you are. And finally, you are free to find a love that will fill you better.

You will feel hurt that you weren’t given more. You might even feel sorry for yourself for not noticing or for not asking for your needs to be met. But you might also start to feel a bit empowered: now you recognize how much more you deserve and how you won’t settle for anything less in the future.

With all that being said, these are some love lessons you will learn from a bare minimum man:

“I am no longer allowing myself to be small and quiet.”

When you’re with a bare minimum man, you might not realize how much you shrink in order to make space for them. You do this because you fear that you and your needs might be too much. You kept yourself small and quiet, never asking for your needs to be met, out of fear of rejection or abandonment. The thing is, by doing this, you are ultimately rejecting and abandoning yourself. Self-abandonment is a coping mechanism stemming from low self-esteem, self-doubt, anxiety, trauma, and a desire to please others.

But now that you’re out of the relationship and you recognize these behaviors, you are making changes. You are now able to go into relationships with a different mindset: I am allowed to take up space. I am allowed to have a voice. I deserve more than what I’ve been given.

“I know my worth.”

Bare minimum men know how to keep you invested, with their emotionally distant and avoidant behaviors. The way they treated you was merely a reflection of them and how they lacked the ability to love and respect you in the way you deserve.

Being with someone who puts little to no effort into the relationship can really make you start to doubt yourself and your worth. Did I do something wrong to deserve this? Am I enough?

Now that you’re out of the relationship, you finally have the space to realize how little they gave you and how much more you deserve. You recognize your worth and won’t tolerate mistreatment, disrespect, or half-assed effort. And you especially won’t allow a bare minimum man to be in control of the way you perceive yourself.

Say these affirmations to yourself, out loud, as many times as you need:

I am allowed to take up space.

I am allowed to have a voice.

I deserve more than what I’ve been given.

I am loved.

I am enough.

In numerology, the number 1 represents strength, confidence, and creation, and the number 11 represents balance, intuition, and fulfillment. The angel number 111 is the Universe’s way of reminding you of your power to release what no longer serves you. It’s reminding you to stay mindful during this release so you can attract abundance and the people and opportunities meant for you.

With all that being said, this is what each zodiac sign could expect for the energy after January 11th, 2026 (1/11/26).

Aries

You will find it’s becoming easier for you to not only put your energy toward your passion projects but also into yourself. You’re entering a new space of flow and balance, and you’ll be feeling really good about that. Trust yourself. Be confident.

Taurus

You’re getting organized. With your career and finances, you’re getting things together. You might even be creating a healthier balance between work and play. Find your peace and focus on yourself, your career, and your goals.

Gemini

Are you feeling some relief? You are now letting go of everything that wasn’t good for you, especially in your relationships. Beautiful connections are coming in, and you might already be sensing that. Hold onto that feeling. Be grateful.

Cancer

Remember: you cannot heal unless you first look at your hurt. Whether it’s a person, a work situation, or the way you take care of yourself, you’re being asked to face it and make a change. You’re ready. You are strong enough.

Leo

Do you sense these new connections coming in? You’re being encouraged to dive deeper into them. This can be very fulfilling for you, as long as you allow it to happen. Keep being introspective. Keep going.

Virgo

The last few months may have felt slow or heavy. Now, you’re being flooded with new ideas and inspiration, and you might not even know where to begin. Just start. This will be rewarding and will help balance what felt lacking before.

Libra

You know how important peace is in your life. Sometimes, though, you overlook the fact that certain people disrupt that balance. Be honest with yourself: are they good to you? If not, it may be time to let them go.

Scorpio

It finally feels like things are changing in the best way possible. Embrace this energy. Enjoy the journey. Let go of what’s been holding you back. Remember: you are the only one who can change your life.

Sagittarius

This energy is inviting you to move confidently into new partnerships with a deeper desire for connection and communication. Relationships can feel scary, but deep down you know this is what you’ve been wanting. Trust that you deserve it.

Capricorn

You’re open to change, but you may be taking on too much at once. That’s understandable at the start of a new year. Avoid burnout. Keep your routines, but remember to slow down and rest as well.

Aquarius

A gentle reminder: your relationships are just as important as your career. You don’t have to let everyone in, but you also don’t have to go through life alone. Once you accept this, you’ll grow in ways you didn’t expect.

Pisces

Focus on your home life. Declutter your space and release anything that doesn’t bring you joy. Try not to seek too much validation from the outside world. Focus on creating a sense of home within yourself.

When you are going through a spiritual awakening, you might recognize some of the signs: your awareness is heightened, you’re questioning beliefs, you’re seeing a lot of synchronicities, your relationships are changing, and more.

Here are the stages of a spiritual awakening:

Experiencing a triggering event.

A significant life event, crisis, or intense emotional experience can serve as a catalyst for this spiritual awakening. This event can often be triggering and can manifest in various ways: physical pain, emotional turmoil, uprooting past trauma, relationship issues, or a mini mid-life crisis. While this stage is intense, overwhelming, and uncomfortable, it’s deeply important to face your suffering so you can begin to move toward healing and transformation.

After the major triggering event, you might go through a period of intense inner turmoil, desperation, fear, lostness, and loneliness. This can be a “Dark Night of the Soul.” You might start to acknowledge and embrace your Shadow Self: the parts of you that you or others have rejected, have held you back, or have been shoved into the depths of your being. The Shadow Self is our fear, guilt, trauma, shame, and behavioral patterns and projections.

Questioning beliefs and seeking answers.

During this stage, you might start to question your long-held beliefs and cultural conditioning. You start to question who you are, what you believe in, and what your purpose is. You start to wonder about the meaning of life and the mysteries behind the Universe. Who am I? What is my purpose here on Earth? What is the meaning of life? What happens after we die?

Disillusionment.

The questioning process will make you feel a sense of disillusionment. Who am I? What do I believe in? What is my purpose here on Earth? With an open mind, you will want to explore philosophical and spiritual paths, seek guidance from mentors, and read books on spirituality and philosophy. You will feel drawn to mindfulness and meditation, energy healing, or other various practices.

Experiencing inner transformation.

Going through a spiritual journey will lead to a greater awareness of the Universe and the world in which we live, and with this awareness comes a sense of inner peace, love, and unity. You’ll start to become more compassionate, empathetic, and understanding towards yourself and others.

Accepting, surrendering, and continuing to grow.

As you’re going through a spiritual awakening, you will start to accept the journey you’re on and the life you’re living. You’ll surrender to it. You’ll let go and put your trust in the Universe. You will understand that death, life, and rebirth are inevitable and that everything that is supposed to happen will happen. You will start to enjoy living in the present moment by embracing the beauty of life.

Here are some signs that he will only ever give you the bare minimum:

Lack of or bad communication.

Your partner avoids having deep or hard conversations with you. They don’t talk about the future, personal goals, or issues in the relationship that need addressing. They listen to respond rather than listen to understand. They rarely express empathy or compassion for you when you are opening up about your feelings. They don’t reply to messages consistently or take into account your anxious feelings.

If your partner is doing any of these things and you’ve expressed your concerns to them about it and they still haven’t changed, then there’s a good chance they’re going to continue this. They’re going to continue giving you the bare minimum.

Emotional detachment and minimal intimacy.

When someone gives you the bare minimum in a relationship, it often means they have no or little emotional attachment. It’s emotional unavailability, really. They’re distant and avoidant of feelings — theirs and yours. They don’t bother putting in effort to connect or be intimate. Some might put in the effort with physical affection, but not all will put in the effort to connect on a deeper level. They might be intimate, but not intimate.

Infrequent quality time.

We all have lives outside of our relationship: friends, colleagues, family, and hobbies. But if your partner doesn’t prioritize you and your quality time together, there’s a good chance they don’t care enough to give more than just the bare minimum effort. They don’t suggest a date night once a week. They don’t ask to hang out, but instead, spend time with you only when you bring it up. They don’t go on little getaway trips with you. They don’t put in the effort to spend quality time together. They might also cancel plans or not follow through with commitments. They often leave you feeling disappointed and undervalued.

Little to no support or appreciation.

Your partner doesn’t offer any emotional support when you need it. You tell them about the fight you’re having with a friend or about your tough day at work and all they can muster up is Aw, I’m sorry. Or, worse, they don’t even acknowledge it. They don’t offer you a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on. They don’t ask if you need anything to cheer you up. They show little interest in you and your emotional well-being.

Not only that, but they show little interest in your interests, hobbies, or life outside of the relationship. They don’t ask about the yoga class you took this morning or the book you’ve been reading. They fail to acknowledge you as a person.

And maybe, they might even fail to acknowledge your efforts in the relationship. They don’t express gratitude for the love, care, affection, and effort you bring to the relationship.

Minimal effort in resolving conflicts

This goes back to emotional detachment and lack of communication. They avoid addressing relationship problems. When there’s a conflict, they ignore it. Or, they are resistant to compromise. They don’t make sacrifices. They don’t care enough to try to make the relationship work.

Some people aren’t as emotionally available as you would like them to be. If you’re in a relationship with someone who cannot love, support, and respect you in the way that you deserve, then you need to let them go. If someone does not have the capacity to treat you the way you deserve to be treated and puts no effort into making more of an effort, then there is no reason for you to stay. If they only give you the bare minimum, then you need to let them go.

Here are some things to keep in mind and things you can do while you wait for a text back:

Distract yourself.

Nothing good can come from you sitting around on your phone, waiting for the notification that they’ve finally texted you. It’s just going to make you feel more impatient, more on edge, and overthinking the worst. Instead of waiting for the little message bubbles to pop up, distract yourself. Put your phone down. Read a book, go for a walk, watch your favorite movie, get a meal with friends. Do something that will not only keep you busy but will bring you a sense of peace and joy too.

Remain calm and stay patient.

It’s natural to feel anxious. And it’s not easy to just turn off that part of your brain and “relax.” Try to remain calm and not jump to conclusions, assuming the worst. Take a deep breath. People have various reasons for not responding immediately, and it may have nothing to do with you. Stay patient. They’ll reply when they’re ready to.

Set realistic expectations.

As mentioned above, the response time might have nothing to do with you. Not everyone communicates in the same way: some people are quick with replies, others think they’ve responded in their heads and forget to reply, and others reply in a timely manner. It’s important to not expect them to reply and communicate in the same way you do. Consider their perspective and consider what priorities and responsibilities are ahead of texting you back. Be patient and be more understanding of the fact that

Avoid overthinking.

It’s easy to overanalyze every aspect of the situation. You’re overanalyzing whether or not you said the right thing. You’re overanalyzing what they could be doing and why they’re not messaging you back. Remember that people have their own lives and schedules. There’s always a reason for the delay, so be kinder to yourself and try to avoid the overthinking spiral.

Your twin flame isn’t a soulmate, but rather, an intense soul connection. They say twin flames are two souls split into two bodies, which is why you might see yourself in and feel drawn to one another. Twin flames are meant to hold up a mirror to who we really are and what parts of us need to change, and help face and heal our doubts and insecurities. They will teach us, challenge us, and be a catalyst for personal growth.

Here are some love lessons your twin flame will teach you:

How to not lose yourself in someone else.

Oftentimes, people get lost in a relationship. Their partner is the center of their world and they don’t know who they are without their partner. They’re obsessed and feel a sense of possession over their partner.

The purpose of a twin flame relationship is to challenge you. You’re in an obsessive, codependent relationship to acknowledge and heal your codependency. You’re in an anxiously attached relationship to shed light on and heal your anxious attachment. You don’t know who you are without your partner, so when you (inevitably) break up, you’re forced to look at yourself and figure out who you are.

When you’re out of the twin flame relationship, you will learn how independent, secure, and strong you really are. They just had to help guide you there.

How to love someone without sacrificing your own needs.

As mentioned before, your twin flame is supposed to challenge you and be a catalyst for growth. When you’re in this twin flame relationship, you are still putting their needs before your own. You are still deep in your people-pleasing tendencies.

When this relationship inevitably ends, you will open your eyes to this behavior and tell yourself, I’m not doing that ever again. I’m setting boundaries. I’m putting myself first for once. You know that your kindness and generosity are your superpowers, but you no longer use them as a means of keeping someone around. You are still fiercely loving and caring, but you no longer sacrifice yourself. You no longer abandon yourself and your needs when you’re in a relationship.

You shouldn’t be loved by what you can do for others. You should be loved for who you are, period.

You’re constantly comparing.

It’s so easy for us to compare ourselves to other people and other relationships. The grass is always greener. But you might be setting unrealistic expectations for yourself if you’re constantly comparing your relationship to others or you’re idealizing relationships that are portrayed in media. Every relationship is different. Every relationship has its good and bad qualities. You’ll only be dissatisfied if you keep up with this constant comparison.

You’re seeking perfection.

No one is perfect and no relationship is perfect either. To make a relationship work, you have to compromise, make an effort, and expect your partner and you to have flaws. If you’re focused on achieving a “perfect relationship”, you’re simply shooting for the stars. There’s beauty in the imperfections and growth — never forget that.

You’re overly dependent.

According to psychologists, codependency is “one-sided, casting one person in the role of constant caregiver.” Relying solely on your partner for happiness or a sense of purpose or feeling incomplete without a partner might indicate a fear of independence and codependency issues. A healthy relationship should enhance your life, not define it. You are not your relationship. Codependency is not love. Codependency is an attachment. It’s a means of filling a void.

You’re ignoring red flags.

You romanticize your partner and are deeply infatuated with them — which isn’t always a good thing. When you wear the rose-colored glasses, you can’t see the red flags. There’s a difference between flaws and red flags, and when you don’t notice the difference, you might overlook some important issues. It’s important to trust your instincts, listen to your friends if they notice the red flags, and address concerns rather than dismiss them.

You’re not taking personal responsibility.

Every relationship has its issues. Sometimes, it’s always one person who creates the mess. Other times, both partners are creating the mess.

Blaming your partner for all the issues in the relationship without considering whether or not you have a part in those issues can hinder your personal and relationship’s growth. Because, as mentioned before, no one is perfect. It’s important to take responsibility for your actions.

There’s a lack of boundaries.

Healthy relationships have boundaries. If you struggle to set boundaries, you might have a tendency to people-please. If you struggle to respect your partner’s boundaries or if your partner crosses your boundaries, it can lead you to feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and disrespected.

You have unrealistic expectations.

There’s a difference between someone who gives you the bare minimum and someone who can’t meet your unrealistic, out-of-this-world expectations. You can expect and hope your partner gives you the love, respect, compassion, and affection you deserve. However, you can’t expect them to take you on extravagant trips or buy you expensive things if you know they can’t afford them.

You also can’t expect your partner to make you happy, because ultimately, your happiness should come from within. If you want to be happy and fulfilled, you have to do the inner work and find various sources of joy outside of the relationship. It’s simply unrealistic to have a partner who fulfills all your needs and makes you endlessly happy.