1. He only makes plans with you at the last minute.

You try to make concrete plans in advance, but he always has some excuse why he can’t. Like maybe work is “being weird” or he hasn’t been feeling well. He says he’ll check in with you later, but he only ever okays plans if they’re for the same night.

2. He cancels plans without a clear reason why.

And if you do make plans, half of them don’t even go through. He has last minute problems more often than could ever be reasonable. You accept the excuses because you like him, when in reality he’s just off seeing another girl.

3. There are big gaps in his texting habits.

Sometimes you’re texting all afternoon. The banter is wonderful. Then he might go MIA for an entire day at a time. I have bad news for you: He isn’t texting you because he’s out with another girl. He’ll text you again when she’s gone, but is that good enough?

4. He doesn’t remember key details about you.

You texted him all about your promotion at work, but when you bring it up in person, he congratulates you like this is the first time he’s heard about it. Clearly he isn’t hanging onto your every word like you are for him.

5. …Or he’s gotten things all wrong.

He mentions your brother, but you only have a sister. Or maybe he talks about his own life as if you already heard it. He’s talking to more people than just you, and he’s having a tough time keeping his stories straight.

6. He won’t define the relationship.

Every time you try to take things to the next level, he dodges you. He says he’ll discuss it later. Or he’ll say, “Why should we define anything? We’re having so much fun as we are.” Even if he isn’t talking to other girls–and that’s a big if–he’s clearly not into this the way you are.

7. He won’t post pictures of you online or make it official on socials.

Not only does he not post you on Instagram, but he asks you not to post pictures of him on your socials either. He says it’s for privacy or that he’s just not big on social media, but his profiles would beg to differ. This is a huge red flag, babe. Not only is he probably talking to someone else, but there’s a good chance she’s his full-on girlfriend, fiancée, or wife.

You deserve better.

You’ve always been good at moving on from heartbreak. Your friends think you move on “too fast,” but you truly just don’t have the space in your heart to dwell. Do you wish your ex the worst? Of course! But you aren’t going to sweat it for long.

Taurus

Your divorce will feel like the end of the world. You’ve cultivated such a life for yourself as a couple, it’ll feel like everything’s turned upside down and it’ll take a while for you to recover. But you’ll move on by creating a new space for yourself as this new single version of yourself.

Gemini

You’re the one throwing the divorce party, complete with an elaborate themed cake and a ceremonial burning of all the things that remind you of your ex. You’re just ready to shed all the bad energy and move on in the most epic way possible.

Cancer

You’ll talk about your divorce to anyone who’ll listen. You’ll get deep, you’ll cry, you’ll talk about how betrayed you feel. Does your mail carrier or the barista making your oat milk latte want to hear it? Not necessarily. You’ll know you’ve moved on when you don’t jump to the divorce story when someone asks you how you are.

Leo

It’s really important to you that everyone knows the divorce wasn’t your fault. So important, in fact, that you’ll contact people from your ex’s side of things, like in-laws and ex’s friends, just to let them know your side. Once you feel vindicated, you can move on.

Virgo

You have a whole game plan when it comes to moving on from your divorce. You’ve scheduled in some time where you just sit around and cry, but you’ve also planned outings with your most encouraging friends. Some classes, some therapy, and you should be good to go.

Libra

You move on in only the best way you know how: With a rebound fling. Maybe you’ll schedule a girl’s trip so you can find yourself on a Mexican beach. Or maybe you’ll finally ask out that guy you work with who always flirts with you. Divorce who?

Scorpio

After a period of hiding in your home by yourself in the dark, you’ll finally start moving on from your divorce by letting your friends in to help. Maybe they’ll clean up your apartment, let the light in, and you’ll feel like just a bit of that weight has left your shoulders.

Sagittarius

There’s no sitting still for you when it comes to moving on from divorce. The longer you sit at home feeling sorry for yourself, the worse you feel. You’d prefer an Under the Tuscan Sun moment where you flit off to Italy to buy and restore a dilapidated villa.

Capricorn

You’ll move on from your divorce through sheer force of will. You don’t want to be holding onto this past relationship, so you just won’t. Your friends and family might be worried, but you swear you’ve got this. You know how to keep your crying to a minimum.

Aquarius

You’ll move on by throwing yourself into your projects and work. It’s time for your workaholic side to go into overdrive. That means you might end up with a promotion at the end of this, all thanks to the overwork that comes with an Aquarius moving on after divorce.

Pisces

You move on from a divorce with time. You wish you could throw a party and get over it like some of the other signs, but that doesn’t totally work. (You know, you tried.) You just need to surround yourself with people who love you and you’ll be okay in the end.

The days are shorter, we get in our heads, and it can be hard to turn off bad thoughts. But some zodiac signs are a lot more likely to spend their Christmases with their feelings hurt than others. Are you one of these zodiac signs who’ll be extra sensitive for Christmas?

Aries

You love freely and often. When you have a crush, you have a hard time taking it slow and will usually say something immediately. While you normally heal from heartbreak super quickly, that’s less the case right now. If the holidays have been especially tough for you, you might want to hold off on making any romantic moves until after the new year. Asking out your crush on Christmas Day, while sounding romantic, may just end up with you laying on the couch all day feeling bad about yourself while everyone gleefully opens presents around you. Listen to your more-sensitive-than-normal emotions and take it easy on the big moves.

Taurus

It’s easy to stubbornly say that your family’s opinions don’t affect you, but if you’re super honest with yourself, that’s not really the case. You’re just good at hiding it. This Christmas, every little dig and jab from your relatives will get to you so that, by the end of the day, you feel like you’ve been poked all over. It’s tiring dealing with everyone’s judgment of your career or your love life or your lack of children. Know that it’s perfectly okay to take a break and hide out in the bathroom for a while. Family can be exhausting.

Libra

You’ve done a good job of curating a great inner circle of close friends. They’re basically your chosen family. Unfortunately, you might have to see the literal family you were born with for Christmas, rather than the ones you actually like spending time with. Like Taurus, it’s going to be difficult to deal with criticism from your parents, aunts, and uncles. If need be, you can always text your group chat for a little emotional boost. Sometimes its our friends that help us guard our heart when we don’t have the energy to do it ourselves.

Capricorn

You’re tired. You’ve been working so hard all year, so spending the holiday with family might not feel like the day off that it should. You’ll still feel fried which means you’re not going to be as easy-going as you might hope. One wrong word and you might just break. Nothing like crying on Christmas to remind you that you’re alive. Just remember that it’s okay to have feelings–this is nothing to be ashamed of. If you need to, you can always leave early. A short visit is better than none at all and anyone who cares about your feelings will understand that you need a break.

Quality Time

Remember: You can set the terms of what “quality” means.

When some partners hear “quality time,” they assume that just sitting next to each other while you binge-watch The Office for the tenth time is enough to count. While that works for some, it might not work for you. Be honest about what you see as quality time. It could mean weekly date nights, fun hiking adventures, or having picnics in your favorite parks. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want, and don’t settle for quality time that’s lacking actual quality.

Physical Touch

Remember: You need consent from both parties for this to work.

There’s a lot more to this love language than sexual experiences. You’re likely a fan of hugs and hand-holding, too. But when it comes to the sexual aspect, remember that you need enthusiastic consent from everyone involved. If your partner doesn’t have much of a libido, guilting them into the bedroom under the guise of “but it’s my love language” is icky at best and SA at worst.

Receiving Gifts

Remember: There’s a thin line between satisfaction and greed.

The image of the “receiving gifts” love language is often confused with the “gimme a new car” housewife trope that was all over TV and film in the ’90s. In reality, this love language is way more about the old adage, “it’s the thought that counts.” Rather than expecting jewelry every other week, receiving gifts is more about being shown they care without asking for it. It could be something as simple as a bouquet of flowers for no reason, or your favorite snack at the store. Not every gift has to–or should–break the bank.

Words of Affirmation

Remember: Having this love language doesn’t make you insecure.

Words of affirmation is one of the most difficult love languages to ask for. Society has taught us that if you have to ask if someone loves you, then that just means you’re insecure. To them, you should be satisfied being shown. This often leads to people with words of affirmation as their love language just suffering in silence and never asking for what they need: Their love expressed in words. Having this love language doesn’t make you insecure. It just means you like when people’s feelings are stated plainly so you don’t have to wonder.

Acts of Service

Remember: Let your partner know that you don’t want to have to ask for help.

The biggest stumbling block of acts of service is expressing to your partner that you don’t want to have to ask. There’s a huge difference between someone getting your car washed because they noticed it was dirty rather than you asking them to do it. One shows that they care and the other shows that they need to be reminded that you exist. As you enter your thirties, remember that you shouldn’t have to ask someone to care about you. They either show you, or you’re out the door.

While some signs dwell on bad endings (we’re looking at you, Cancer), others can be counted on not to endlessly complain about their exes for months or years at a time. Are you one of the zodiac signs that handle breakups the best? Read on to find out.

Aries

While the first day or two might be fraught with high emotion and fiery anger, an Aries quickly burns out after heartbreak. They get over the bad things super quickly and start focusing on new people and adventures without even really trying. For an outsider, it can seem like an Aries doesn’t actually have much of a heart to break if they can move on so quickly. It’s less that they lack the heart and more that they have the hope that their situation will turn better soon–and the drive to make that happen. Even so, the more emotional signs can find the switch abrasive.

Taurus

While they don’t have the natural drive to get over breakups quickly like an Aries, Taurus babes are great at treating themselves with grace and self-care during heartbreak. They’re the ones setting limits, vegging out when they need a break, and talking it out only until it stops being helpful. They launch into self-help mode as soon as the bad times start, which means that a Taurus will heal from the heartbreak a lot faster than signs who go on a rampage.

Libra

To say that Libras move on from heartbreak quickly is a bit of an understatement. They’re not the type to sit around pining their loss or waiting months to get back out there after a breakup. Instead, as soon as their mood is even a little stable, they’re back on dating apps or hitting on the friends they’ve always had a crush on. Some might think that Libra’s ultra short single periods aren’t enough to truly get over an ex, but what do they know? Libras have plenty of great relationships that have begun directly after a breakup.

Scorpio

No silently stalking the social media of their exes for Scorpios. They aren’t showing up at the door of the one who broke their heart. Instead, Scorpios go for the clean break, blocking their ex on absolutely everything. This clean break might seem harsh to others, but it’s their way of getting distance so they can heal. Sometimes the best thing you can do is separate yourself from the thing that’s making you feel bad. While Scorpios won’t be the ones who stay friends with their exes, they at least know that they aren’t constantly dwelling on the past.

The idea of being alone out there, surrounded by nature and living the rustic life, is a no-go for so many. Some people, like Gemini and Libra, prefer to surround themselves with people and the hustle and bustle of the city. Not everyone shies away from the slow lifestyle, though. For the following three zodiac signs, a cabin in the woods sounds like the ultimate living arrangement.

Taurus

You’re a homebody and you like where you live to be as cozy and inviting as possible. There’s just something magical about waking up, walking out your door, and plunging yourself into a woodsy wonderland. It fits with your quiet, comfortable vibes. You also don’t shy away from the idea of being a hermit, steering clear of all the people who drain your energy every day. Would you actually drop everything and move to a cabin in the woods? Maybe not, but you can still dream.

Virgo

Of all the twelve zodiac signs, you’re one of the most likely to be a hermit. You get so sick of other people on a regular basis that the idea of being alone, by yourself for the majority of your time, just sounds energizing and lovely. Do you have to go to a cabin in the woods to live your hermit dreams? No, of course not. But wouldn’t it be nice to smell the intoxicating scent of pine trees and campfires while you avoid all human interaction? Yes, it would.

Aquarius

Honestly, it’s not that you necessarily seek out being alone–it just kind of ends up that way. You get caught up in your job or your hobbies and suddenly you haven’t talked to a single soul other than your pet for the last week. You might as well move to a cabin in the woods to complete your hermit woodsman transformation. Spend your days chopping firewood and baking elaborate loaves of bread from scratch. While this might sound like a nightmare for some, it’s like a dream come true for you.

You aren’t needy for wanting to know how people feel about you. You’ve been told you’re too much sometimes, but here’s the deal: You’re only “too much” to people who are incapable of voicing their feelings. That means that you might be surrounding yourself with people who avoid feelings at all cost. Try as you might, you can’t just magically make people want to talk to you. So either live with the fact that your needs won’t get met (kiss spontaneous “I love you” texts goodbye) or do yourself the ultimate favor of getting rid of anyone who doesn’t fill that void.

Quality Time

Your idea of “quality” might be different from other people. Some lackluster lovers will hear “quality time” and assume that sitting on the couch to binge Stranger Things is enough to get to your heart. But it isn’t just sitting in close proximity that scratches that itch, huh? It’s doing actual activities you love, of sharing those activities with your partner. Don’t let your partner gaslight you into thinking that a couch potato relationship is fulfilling your needs.

Receiving Gifts

Gifts can mean a lot of things, so don’t get greedy now. Cartier is great, but remember it’s the thought that counts. You don’t want your partner to go into debt just because you have a thing for receiving gifts. If you won’t accept anything less than expensive store-bought purchases and fancy name brands, your love language isn’t “receiving gifts”–it’s being a sugar baby.

Acts of Service

There’s a fine line between doing something for a partner and being their live-in maid and butler. You’re dangerously close to having a serious relationship imbalance. Don’t just sit back and bask in leisure while your partner waits on you. What are you doing in this relationship? Are you meeting their needs? Are you catering to their love language, too? Because meeting every “I’m too tired to make your breakfast this morning” with “but it’s my love language” is not chill at all.

Physical Touch

Despite physical touch being your love language, that doesn’t mean bodily autonomy is out the window. Don’t forget consent. Of all the love languages, this is the one that most crucially needs a partner who’s also down with touch. You shouldn’t be accepting near-constant physical contact from someone who’s just doing it “because they love you.” This is one where you want enthusiastic consent or nothing at all.

For the following three zodiac signs, November has been exhausting, and you need a break.

Taurus

You have a pretty good routine for unwinding. It might be a show you like to binge on the regular (on the 10th re-watch of Parks and Rec?), or a video game you play to forget about the real world for a moment. Because you’re good at unwinding every night, some people have the incorrect assumption that you never need to just take a full day to yourself. Of course, that’s not true. Sometimes all our normal coping mechanisms fail us, and that’s how you’ve been feeling lately. Listen to your body and mind and take the mental health day that you need.

Cancer

If someone asked you if you could use a day off just to feel all your feelings, you could confidently say “yes,” at any given time. But lately? You’re feeling particularly emotionally wrung-out. Life is tiring, especially when you seem to feel everything so intensely. Even when it isn’t your own drama, your empathy makes it tough to not internalize the negative things going on for the people around you, too. Do yourself a favor and take a day off if you can. Your inner circle of loyal friends and family will probably appreciate it, too.

Scorpio

Admit it: You’re exhausted. Sometimes just being a regular human person is the most tiring activity you can be a part of. This autumn has been one thing after another, and it’s all become too much. If you have to make one more phone call or listen to one more customer complain, you think you might just melt into a puddle of stress-filled tears. It’s okay to take a day to let it all out in the comfort of your own home. In fact, it’s necessary at this point. People won’t think any less of you if you take a day off. We all need it sometimes.

You’re ready to be picky in all the best ways.

Don’t listen to the people who tell you that you shouldn’t be picky. While you might be limiting yourself in a shallow way if you have a hard cut-off for height or career type, for example, having personal standards is actually a good thing. Instead, be picky on how your partner treats you and how they make you feel–and never bend on those things.

You’re finally getting good at recognizing red flags.

When you were fresh in the dating world, you either didn’t notice a lot of red flags, or you would reason them away in favor of having someone to date. As you move forward now, though, you’ll be a lot better at dodging dating duds if you can see these red flags from far away. Ditching bad partners will help you find the right one.

You’ve learned a ton from your previous relationships.

By now, you should have the wisdom to know not only that your previous relationships were learning experiences, but that they’ll help you avoid repeating the same mistakes with future partners. Best of all, this comes with a lack of hate toward exes no matter how awful they were. As soon as you can let go of the hurt from your past, the sooner you can open your heart to someone new.

You’re comfortable being single while you wait for your soulmate.

Dating for the sake of dating is a no-go for your next life chapter. Leave yourself open and available for your soulmate by staying single while you wait. If you date just anyone, then you might not be available when you finally meet your true love. Best of all, if you’re comfortable single, then you can trust that you’ll only date someone who’s worthy.

Other areas of your life are falling into place.

You’ll be ready for true love when other parts of your life are going in the right direction, too. Maybe you’re making great progress when it comes to your dream job, or maybe your non-romantic social life is the best it’s ever been. And, while you wait, you can work to make everything in your life so much better.

You know what you want.

How can you find what you need when you don’t know what you want? You’ll be so much more ready to find true love if you already have an idea of what it should look like. Imagine what a great relationship looks like to you. No you can go find it.

They can not only sense when something’s off, but they’ll actually heed the wisdom that their inner voice is telling them. Others? Well, some people will do anything not to listen–and it usually gets them in trouble. For the following four zodiac signs, Scorpio season will have them needing to hear their inner voices more than ever. Will you heed the call?

Cancer

When people tell you to give others a second chance, you really take that advice to heart. Unfortunately, that usually means you’re silencing your inner voice. So you give another chance even when your gut is telling you not to, and sure enough you get burned in the end. Your instincts were correct, but you didn’t listen in the end. This Scorpio season, start giving more credence to your inner voice and less to the uneducated opinions of those around you.

Leo

It’s not that you don’t hear your inner voice. It’s as loud as can be. But the difference is that you don’t always do what it says. You’ll stay in situations that you know aren’t right for you, and all the while your instincts are screaming at you to make a change. This Scorpio season, start taking the advice of your inner voice. Even if it’s just baby steps, listening and heeding the call can go a long way to getting you out of a bad situation.

Scorpio

Of all the seasons you should start listening to your inner voice, it’s Scorpio season. The trouble with you is that you sometimes mistake your anxieties and worries for your inner voice. When you think, “I shouldn’t do this because people will hurt me or make fun of me,” you assume that’s your inner voice protecting you. Instead, use this season to start distinguishing between your actual gut instinct and the little ways your inner saboteur tries to ruin everything.

Capricorn

While you have great instincts when it comes to the people around you, you aren’t as in-tune when it comes to yourself. You’re the friend who gives all the sage advice to their besties but doesn’t act on any of it themselves. You’re “do as I say, not as I do” personified. This Scorpio season, start taking some of your own advice. And all of that starts by listening to your inner voice. Deep down, you know what’s wrong and what aspects of your life need work. It’s time to listen.