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• How we define uprooting. Uprooting is the tendency to frequently switch paths. This may refer to changing jobs, friends, or personal goals—without staying the course long enough to see substantial outcomes. It’s when you always have big ideas, but there’s minimal follow through.
• Uprooting can hinder your personal journey. Uprooting can lead to a cycle of unfulfilled potential and missed opportunities. If you are in constant search for the next thing, you may miss out on the growth and endurance it takes to tackle present and future challenges.
• Perseverance is key. Your persistence to navigate through tough times can lead to success and fulfillment. Overcoming obstacles and sticking to your goals are crucial to your personal development and journey.
• Prioritize the virtue of patience and respect the value time. Success, whether in business, relationships, or personal growth, requires time and patience. By prematurely abandoning these efforts, you may be unable to enjoy the rewards of your hard work.
• Focus on decision making. It is essential to make conscious decisions about what you want to pursue. It is then important that you stick with it. Without a clear focus, you risk perpetual distraction and jeopardize meaningful progress.

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• Overcoming self-sabotage is an active process. Overcoming self-sabotage involves actively recognizing and changing self-defeating behaviors and beliefs. It also involves adopting new goals, habits, and structures. It is not enough to simply understand what is wrong. Instead, you must work to implement these active steps.
• Success is about personal growth. Success is about focusing on becoming the best you can be, rather than comparing yourself to others. It is important to know that you are capable.
• Find a motivated social circle. If you are around motivated and ambitious friends and colleagues it will also raise your standards and ambitions. Your social circle can have a huge impact on your personal growth.
• Seek joy in your environment. Your environment can have a significant impact on your behavior and success. This suggests that it is important to curate a space that inspires productivity and positivity.
• Embrace doubt and discomfort. Do not fret, the feelings of doubt and discomfort are part of the growth process. These feelings can help indicate areas of change and opportunities for improvement.
• Grow your worth. For long term wealth, it is more beneficial to focus on expanding opportunities and income than merely cutting expenses. Growth involves creating your own value and income streams.

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• Focus on real self care. Real self care is about making foundational changes to build a life that you don’t need to escape from. This kind of self care is not just about indulging in temporary pleasures.
• Address underlying issues in your life. Real self care involves confronting and resolving the deeper issues in your life, such as financial debts, unhealthy routines, or toxic relationships. To truly practice self care, you cannot avoid these issues.
• Focus on creating and implementing actionable plans. It is essential to identify personal challenges and develop a concrete plan to address them. This includes both acknowledging the problems and taking actionable steps toward solutions.
• Seek guidance when you need it. When you’re unsure how to proceed, it’s crucial to seek advice from trusted individuals or professionals who can offer guidance and support.
• Give yourself space to grow. Real self care leads to personal transformation and growth. You will need to confront your fears and subsequently adopt new behaviors. Give yourself room to grow in a direction that aligns with a healthier, more fulfilled version of yourself.

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• Limiting beliefs are the core of self-sabotage. Limiting beliefs are the foundation of self-sabotaging behaviors. They can act as constraints on our abilities and future potential.
• The first important step is to define and recognize limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are repetitive negative thoughts. These thoughts can become core beliefs about life, love, and happiness, which may significantly affect your daily actions and self-perception.
• It is essential to challenge limiting beliefs. You can challenge limiting beliefs by shifting your perspective. This may include allowing yourself to recognize the possibility of fulfilling careers, relationships, and self-love.
• Do not compare success. It is harmful to equate your own self-worth with becoming “the best.” You do not have the best to be enough.
• Strive to overcome the fear of failure. We often fear change due to repeated failures in the past. However, it is imperative to shift your mindset and view these past attempts as steps closer to success. This will allow you to embrace the potential for change and persist through challenges and failures.

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• Self-sabotage reflects our conflicting needs. Self-sabotage occurs when we have conflicting needs – some that are conscious and others that are unconscious. The path to overcoming self-sabotage involves identifying and addressing our unconscious needs.
• Negative emotions can carry wisdom. Negative emotions such as anger, jealousy, and annoyance are not only obstacles, but can also carry profound insights into boundaries, desires, and thoughts that we might ignore or suppress.
• Keep moving forward. Holding onto past relationships or fears can hinder progress and block new beginnings. Therefore, taking proactive steps towards self-improvement and new beginnings can lead to personal fulfillment and contentment.
• It is important to face discomfort. Discomfort is a signal for potential growth. It helps indicate areas of our lives where we are settling for less. Notably, embracing discomfort can help lead to significant personal development.
• We have the control to change our lives. While we might not have control over every aspect of our lives, a significant portion is within our control or at least influence. Recognizing and exercising this control is key to overcoming self-sabotage and pursuing a fulfilling life.

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All self sabotage is showing you a need, and when you look into what the self sabotaging behavior is, you’re actually showing yourself exactly what you want.

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The negative emotions that we experience, especially as it pertains to self sabotage, actually hold within them a profound wisdom.

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Every time in my life I was uncomfortable, it was because there was something deep, deep down within me, a voice that I couldn’t even put thoughts to, something deep inside telling me, you are better than this. You are capable of more than this.

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You are worrying as a means of trying to keep your eye on any potential negative thing that could possibly happen in your life, thinking that that would help you take steps maybe to protect yourself from or to avoid it. You are wrong.

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Whatever you plant the seed with is how the tree will grow. You plant the seed with self hate, you are only gonna get a forest of self hate. You plant a small seed with self love, and your whole life is gonna start to blossom.

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• Self-sabotage involves unconscious behaviors that often obstruct our goals. When we self-sabotage, we may be fulfilling unrecognized needs or desires. The problem is we usually don’t realize that we’re doing it.
• Our actions are primarily driven by the desire to stay safe and feel accepted. Most of the time, other motives boil down to one of these two desires too. The desire to stay safe and feel accepted may underpin many of our self-sabotaging behaviors.
• Self-sabotage thrives in our mind’s disconnect. The root of self-sabotage lies in a disconnect between what we say we want and what we desire on a deeper level.
• There are ways to overcome self-sabotage. Identifying and addressing the underlying needs and desires can lead to overcoming self-sabotage. When we really start listening, we can actually start rebuilding our lives to reflect what we actually want.
• We should strive to pursue our authentic desires. Progress and fulfillment come from aligning our actions with our authentic desires, rather than pursuing goals we don’t genuinely want.

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Self sabotage is simply setting up an unconscious obstruction to meeting our own goal.

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We need to start asking ourselves, what kind of life would be too good to be true? Because that’s usually what we want.

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The real reason that people sabotage their progress in life is because they do not fundamentally want, at some level, the thing that they think that they want. There is some competing desire within them that’s winning out.

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This is the most common question that I hear all of the time, but how do I know what I want? You reflect. You give yourself space. You soul search. You read. You look at what other people around you are doing. You travel if you can.

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We need to let go of what we thought we wanted growing up. We need to let go of the idea that we’re failing or we’re not living up to someone else’s idea of who we should be.

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You can find all the books by Brianna Wiest on Shop Catalog here. This podcast series is best listened to in conjunction with Brianna’s best-selling book The Mountain Is You.

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